beliefs, and presumptions about the world (Worden, 2018). Let us look at those individually. External Adjustments : Transitioning to a new world without the deceased means different things for different persons, depending on what the partnership was with the departed and the various roles the deceased filled. Many widows require a substantial amount of time to understand what it is like to live without their husbands. This awareness often starts to surface around 3 to 4 months after the loss. It includes coming to grips with living alone, raising children alone, facing an empty house, and handling finances alone. Internal Adjustments : Not only will the bereaved adapt to the loss of responsibilities that the deceased had previously filled, but death also presents them with the task of adapting to their sense of self. Widows and bereaved parents need to understand how death affects their self-definition, self-esteem, and self-efficacy. Some studies suggest that for women who define their identity through relationships and caring for others, bereavement means not only the loss of a partner but also the sense of self-loss. Spiritual Adjustments : The third field of adjustment is the understanding of the universe that one has. Grief is an effort to rebuild a world of meaning threatened by the loss, which (Neimeyer, Prigerson & Davies, 2002). raises two challenges: a. interpreting the event account of death to make sense of what happened and its consequences for the continued life of the mourner; Helping the bereaved How do you console somebody who has lost someone they love? The grieving person may feel lost and alone, but if you use the right words and give the proper support, as they start rebuilding their lives, you can make a big difference. Anyone, who mourns a loved one's, death can think of nothing else, but the person they have lost. You can start by showing interest in the deceased person quite simply by expressing a genuine desire to know about the lost loved one’s qualities, background, stories, hobbies, career, family, or anything else closely connected to them. This will provide comfort and help during their bereavement. It is also important to use practical acts such as: going beyond Bereavement services While funeral directors provide private funeral service, proper knowledge of other key stakeholders in the provision of bereavement services is key. The public, private, and charitable sectors provide services to the bereaved, and it may be beneficial to consider the variations between them. Statutory programs: This covers all programs that federal, state, and local councils provide. Most of these programs have a legal basis, which means that the councils are obliged to provide these services. The councils also have a role to play in ensuring that all the necessary legal processes are adequately followed after death. Although these programs are delivered at least partly by central and local government support, some of their support that comes from fees, such as the billing of certified Commercial services Such services are offered by businesses that include paying for their services to cover their costs. The owners and shareholders of most commercial services earn a profit to be able to improve their services. They will consider the quality of service as vitally important in the field of bereavement, but they do sell their services to you. Services provided by commercial companies include:
b. and accessing the back story of the relationship with the deceased as a means of reconstructing an ongoing continuing bond. The foundations of one's world may be rocked by death. Loss through death can challenge the fundamental values of one's life and moral beliefs — beliefs influenced by their family, friends, schooling, and faith, and life experiences. It is not strange for the bereaved to believe that they have lost direction in life. The bereaved find meaning in the loss, and the accompanying life changes, to make sense of it and recover some influence of his or her life. The September 11, 2001 attacks questioned these three underlying beliefs and more. Such challenges are often likely to emerge when violent and untimely deaths occur. Moms whose young children fall victim to drive-by shootings may often struggle with understanding why God has allowed such a thing to happen (Worden, 2018). Task IV: To Find a Way to Remember the Deceased While Embarking on the Rest of One’s Journey through Life This concept was initially suggested by Freud when he claimed that grieving has quite a precise psychical role, which is to detach the survivor’s hopes and memories from the dead. We now understand that people do not detach from the dead but find ways to remember the deceased. Sometimes these remembrances and connections are called continuing bonds. The fourth task of mourning, therefore, should establish a place for the deceased that will enable the mourner to memorialize the deceased but in a way that will not preclude him or her from going on with life. We ought to find ways of memorializing, that is, remembering dead loved ones—keeping them with us but still going on with life (Worden, 2018). expressions of concern to ask questions about who helps the disadvantaged person – offering particular support if appropriate. Encourage bereaved people to draw from their inner reserves by questioning how they coped with challenging circumstances in the past: ● Avoid platitudes such as ' time is a healer, ' ' keep your head up ,' ' count your blessings ,' etc. ● Aid bereaved people with focusing on the entire life of the individual they have lost, not only the painful phase at the end. copies of death certificates. Some of the services they provide include: ● Hospitals and some hospices. ● Emergency services. ● General practitioners and community health services. ● Death investigation – by independent coroners are employed by local governments. ● Registration of death. ● Local authority bereavement services - The structure of local Councils vary across various parts of the country. Most councils distribute burial grounds and crematoria, and they also have a responsibility to provide funerals for those who die and have no-one else to make the arrangements.
● Will writing. ● Pre-payment funeral plans. ● Funeral directors and memorial masons. ● Some cemeteries and crematoria. ● Probate. ● Legal representation at inquest and litigation. ● Banking.
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